I have minor allergies. I deal with them through keeping my dairy intake to a minimum, drinking lots of water, and eating foods that open the nasal passages. And I avoid the most severe allergen. Sadly, the dust one is everywhere that is indoors, even on the pillows at home.

My guess is that our ...

Colleen,

Just because you handled sexism well, does not mean that the sexism did not exist or was not a factor in the problem you described. The thing about all sorts of -isms is that if they were not there, you would not have to experience that sort of thing in the first place. You are a ram ...

Am I the only one who thinks the idea is creepy and retrograde? How are we going to make any progress on gender issues if the genders don't talk to each other?

"Because a girl being a bully is new, different, fascinating, and, IMHO, long overdue."

Overdue? What?

I must live on a different planet than most of you. I've seen cruelty come from both genders, in many different ways. Girls being new bullies: you must be kidding, right?

There is no excuse ...

I've certainly seen my share of women who have no problem being mean (LOL). I think a few bad relationships with do that to them.

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"So your daughter/wife/girlfriend/sister/friend mentions to you that they've started boxing.

You think..."

I think of telling her to please not use the training as the license to start acting stupid and picking fights with mean people. Don't think that you can now go toe to toe with a large Bar ...

"So people wonder why I think girls should be allowed to wrestle
and fight with their brothers and counsins? People wonder why I
think girls would be better off if they were allowed to have a
school yard fight or two (or six) while growing up. People wonder
why the girls that play contact sports ...

Because we are not beasts.

"If someone always intervenes to help the girl, how is she going to handle a date who gets out of hand when sheÕs a teen?"

If someone never does, then she may see herself as worthless. The boys may think their sisters are not worth defending. Or cherishing. Or respecting ...

Now just imagine if some of then knew some karate:
http://www.backlash.com/book/domv.html

Or TaeBo?

I think that it's a pretty safe assumption that if you bite most men in the scrotum they're going to let go whatever the hell they have a hold of. Or is it just me?

Keys are still weapons, so attacking the guy's arms( forearm) may do something---using the keys to dig into flesh and rip/tear. If she could, at some point the woman could beat him over the head with one of her shoes. That's assumigng that she can see a shoe as a weapon ahead of time.

Maybe some ...

"One of the key manipulations an abuser will use is the need to be a "good boy" or "good girl" (and I use that last term as the abuser sees it, not as a sexist statement) to foster compliance in their victim."

Ok, could you please explain how that is a or could be construed to be a sexist statement ...

If they are looking dead at you, eyes beeming, glearing, salivating, loudly calling you a fag or dyke to your face, of course that is a challenge. If someone says it in a way that makes you think they did not intend for you to hear it, that is not a challenge.

Of course, whichever way you hear it ...

""Aw, poor baby, are you all mad because I hurt your feelings?"

That's DE-esculation? Sounds like some dangerous advice.

"Those of you who've been verbally harassed will no doubt recognize this coward's tactic - a guy says something offensive about you... to his friend... as they're walking away ...

"As a butch, you must remember you're an unusual woman, one with potentially unknown qualities, and this can work to your advantage. "

A woman trying to butch her way to fighting confidence is just like how some guys try to bull their way to fighting confidence. After a certain point, if you don't ...