However, the sticky part of it is, she wouldn't actually hit anyone else.
So, I want her feel that can can if she feels she has to. She is pretty "Yin/Passive" kid.
If I lost my cool about it, I don't know what the effect would be. I do NOT want her to be as passive as she is and I don't think she is going to hit any of the other kids in 4th grade.
Next year, or the year after, maybe she might have to?
Further complicating matter was the punch was exact in its extension. Another inch, bloody nose, 1/2 shorter. clean miss.
She has not practiced enough to be that exact, or, at least I didn't think so. Maybe she got lucky.
I felt stupid.
But I more or less left it at "good punch" (you didn't hurt me) and later "don't be hitting any of the other kids". To that I got a "Daaaaa----aaad!" (meaning of course I wouldn't, YOURE the designated punching bag, I wouldn't actually hit a friend!!)
So, at this point I left it at the praise level.
Do you think I should raise the matter again?
She,as I said, is not an aggressive kid.
I would accept guidance, of course.