"< It is particularly tragic when
young people who have Black Belts are beaten up and/or raped.
Invariably, they had not been exposed to the mindset we seek to
cultivate and feel there is something terribly wrong with them as
people and martial artists that they allowed this insult to be
perpetrated upon them..."I should have done my triple spinning
upside down crescent unstoppable dragon whips his tail technique!"
I feel very strongly that it is criminal for us to allow students to
leave the dojo with this type of perspective.> ___Elkins-sensei "
Part of the problem may also be this: if we tell people the truth, will they NOT come back or find someone else who will lie to them? I think we know the answer to this question.
Example: Now that I've gotten the 2nd Brown belt (2nd Gup), people peek in the class and ask me questions about the style if one of the teachers is not there. I had a guy tell me he was interested in taking classes and was asking me if we do what Steven Segal does because "Man, I want to learn how to break bones. Isn't that Aikido that he does??" When I told him that Segal does Aikijitsu and Chinna, not Aikido, that we do Jujitsu as a complement to TangSooDo, our main focus, he seemed a little dissapointed. When I also told him that he could still take Aikido someplace and put the "jitsu" in it provided he had the motivation, he seemed more uninteresed, even almost angry that I burst his bubble. Then I told him that he may want to just try us out since the Rec center is convenient and it's a cheap way to see if he is even interested in the martial arts since we do a bit of striking and kicking AND some grappling, which could lead to learning how to break bones IN THE LONG RUN. He went back on this thing of how he wanted to learn how to break bones, but I told him that it really takes a LONG time to do the type of stuff that Segal does and that it's TOUGH to pull that stuff off in a real fight anyway, that you would have to study Chinna solely for a long period of time before you really get it. He looked like he wanted to attack me when I said that style isn't important, just get your feet wet somewhere and start training, then see where your heart wants you to go. But someone else in the class came along and started talking to him and sold him the bill of goods of how he could be like Segal and he listened to him and shrugged me off like I was a player-hater who was raining on his parade out of spite.
I was merely telling this guy the truth, telling him what I wish someone had told ME in the beginning, that you are NOT going to be Segal overnight! But this guy wanted to believe the lie. It makes me wonder that if Instructors who are making their living teaching would find their lights being cut off if they told people up front that getting a black belt will not make them invincible.
People want to believe the lie, not "Van Canna's Self Defense Realities"!!! That is the main problem!
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[This message has been edited by Cecil (edited 02-16-99).]