You know, Laird, that many people reading this will disagree with you from the safety and “calmness” of the keyboard “command post”
Yes their will always be someone judging you http://banffuechiryu.tripod.com/poor1_0001.wmv
So be it, I live my life by my values and standards, I don’t give a tinkers damn about the peanut gallery second guessing my actions. I don’t want to live life on the side lines and I don’t live my life trying to appease others.
The emotional high - jacking is not a factor at the keyboard.
Yes in this situation many would be highjacked….and some would just respond without emotion.
I’m big on the hot stove theory, touch it and you get burned, instant feedback! NEMO ME IMPUNE LACESSIT (no one provokes me with impunity) To respond swift and decisive it helps if you have already decided where your lines in the sand have been drawn and you have already decided on the response. No brain stall just reaction.
Hard as it will be, it is wise to program the “Tactical” __ i.e., if the enemy is “multiple” or potentially very dangerous, posing a physical threat to the woman we are with, we may need a different approach, different timing.
I agree, no sense going when you can not win. One must work these details out in advance…when to engage when not to. When to walk away when to possibly die…and all conflicts can result in death…lots of soul searching involved in violence. Best to have done much of it before hand or you will be frozen unable to make a decision when you may need to.
But there will be readers here advising you to “let it go” and walk away. Probably safe thing to do, but one pays emotionally afterwards.
One always pays an emotional price either way…so it comes down to who you are in my book.
Yes, Laird, interesting work that brings me close to the realities of life and death in so many disparate ways.
My specialty has always been fatal incidents and catastrophic liability exposures from all walks of life.
There are ten thousand stories to tell
I look forward to them Van! This is a valuable resource for we who visit your page….thanks for keeping our faces pressed into the realities of life…weather we like it or not! You do us a valuable service!
Understand that this was the “shark’s bump” and a major one.
This was the interview.
I agree Rick
True. You also will see “you” in the mirror of your mind every waking moment.
We must live with ourselves first.
You have some tough choices to make ahead of time.
I agree Van, the consequences of escalating must be dealt with long before you face a situation where you may be going. When it’s time to go, it’s not the time to be pondering ones pocket book or the complexities of prison life.