Interesting thread you guys
! Seems to have two topics - the suggestions for increased awareness in malls and subways and such seem well advised - very timely in this over commercialized season.
As for the other side of this thread...
Brother! How the pendulum swings! After exploring your "feminine" sides - I see that an overabundance of testosterone has erupted in response! To wit...
"keeping her on a leash"??????????????
"controlling your date"
"damsel in distress"
I repeat myself...oh brother. And I thought such progress had been made! Seriously though - some very valid points have been made - as Van-san points out: <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote
Yes , we as men , sometimes can be such jerks , but we have our female counterparts !
Well yes - the capacity for being a "jerk" surpasses gender. Women can be manipulative, and instigate confrontation, but sometimes this is not intentional! Just because a woman wears something sexy does NOT mean she is inviting advances from men other than her date/husband/boyfriend! What, should we all dress like frumpy housewives to avoid someone challenging your "masculinity?" Oh please! You wouldn't even want to be seen with us! There are however, women who push the limits of propriety - I've seen them and have known some of them. They do seem to delight in causing a stir, but there are an equal number of "macho" types who can't stand someone even smiling at their date thinking they are putting the "make" on his girl/woman and thus insulting his masculinity.
It boils down to this folks - it's the bizzare courtship ritual of humanity. Dancing around each other - hiding/exposing weaknesses and vulnerabilities in the quest to increase a level of intimacy with another human being... moving toward exploration of deeper emotional issues - mix in a fast paced holiday season and a few mind altering drinks (or drugs!) and you've got a potentially explosive situation!
So what? If you are going to play that game - play, but be aware of the dangers! Men and women both have their stupid games they play in social situations - if you are lucky enough to have someone by your side that you can trust implicitly and have already developed a level of intimacy with, then you can approach these situations with a confidence knowing that your partner will be with you 100% if something goes haywire - what great backup! If however these social get togethers are part of an initial courtship ritual for you and another, then do as advised in this thread - stay aware, watch the heavy drinking - and if it starts to look like a confrontation is brewing...get the hell out of there! Get to know your date better before trying that again. If she is truly trying to instigate confrontations, dump her - but watch out for the other idiots that may be using her to instigate something with YOU!
Ok, I'm going back to my mending now...
[This message has been edited by Lori (edited 12-05-98).]