Exactly. Scenario training needs to give the threat and the good guy the whole range of options... and that means responding like a real bad guy and that means being de-escalated verbally sometimes. And sometimes not.
RTPV. Next kihon...hmmm.
Stance, just like in karate. Everyone has stood in front of a mirror in their fighting stance just to see where the holes are. Now do it in VSD. Look in the mirror and imagine that you are facing someone who might be trouble. Look at yourself and have friends help critique.
Do you look angry? Afraid? Blase? Disinterested? Bored? Are you showing palms or knuckles? (Even though people almost always slap with the palm, they _threaten_ to slap with the back of the hand. Palms look less agressive.)
Sit down. If you were woofing someone (Imagine!) and they sat down and said in a half buzzed voice "Man, that's really deep. I'm going to have to think about that one. Wow. Thanks."
Or (work example, sorry) some inmate comes up waving his arms around, yelling about how he's getting screwed and someone's going to pay... and you lean back and put your feet up on the desk and say, "Say that again, a little slower. Who, exactly is the problem?" If he's woofing for combat, he deflates. Help? Who wanted help?
TV examples are even worse, but Columbo was a master of this- I even copy my pre-fight stance from him: Bladed, strong side forward, hand absently scratching the back of my neck, other hand vaguely in the vicinity of my stomach, eyes not looking really at the threat,talking slowly and asking open-ended questions and really listening. A great defensive stance if he does go off, good evasions and strikes and a body language that doesn't trigger a challenge response.