This could go on the thread about size being a factor in VSD, or this thread over on the women's forum, or... It doesn't address the problem where a woman who is attacked actually believes her attacker when told "I won't hurt you if you do what I say..." YUCK, just thinking it, it seems BS in my head! grrrr...
Anyway, smaller woman confronted by "garbage mouth" uses VSD (well sort of)
Many years ago, I was in a local watering hole in Carolina with my older sister who was back home for a visit. This place had a little stage and there was a local "Southern Rock" band playing cover tunes with folks dancing. We were sitting at the bar because it was crowded and those were the only seats. I'm ~6'2", and (at the time) was ~215# (Oh, the days...
), but I got all
the size in my family! My older sister is 5'1/2" (do not
forget that 1/2! "
) and was weighing in at a hefty ~100#! Up saunters this Mike Tyson wannabe, taps her on the shoulder and it goes like this: (
Mike: "Wanna dance wit me?"
Sis: "No, thanks anyway." (turns back around)
Mike: (tapping on shoulder again) "I said, will ya dance wit me?"
said, 'No, thanks anyway.'"
Mike: "Why won't you dance wit me?"
Sis: "Cause I don't
feel like dancing. OK?" (I'm looking at this guy who is ~6'4", easily 250+#, obviously works out and from the scares on his face he's been hit before... and I'm thinking this is $hit she don't even
want to get into... she's gonna get herself killed!)
Mike: "You just don't want to dance wit me 'cause you think I'm not as good as you!"
Sis: "That's not true. I'm just having a drink and I don't feel like dancing
Mike: "You just a stuck-up F-in' B**** C*** *@#%$*^%@#$%#@, you &^@#$(^@#$! You racist little S***! I oughta teach you a lesson."
Sis: (slides off of the bar stoll with everyone now watching, literally climbs up the leg rails and stands up on the stool, reaches down and grabs "Mike" by the shirt, gets right in his face and yells) "That's RIGHT
, you low-life *#@$^(#$&^%$#@%#! Now leave me the *^?@$(@#$(^*@$^*#@$ alone, you ^#$*(^&)@#$%^^%?@&^%#@$! OR else I'll rip your puny little pr!ck off and shove it up your @$$! GOT IT!" (I'm thinking, here it comes, I better step in before he hits her, ohmygawd...)
Mike: "I - i - i - i'm really sorry miss... ummmm... P - p - please forgive me... I just w - w - wanted a dance... can I b - b - buy you a drink?"
Sis: (letting go of "Mike's" shirt and pointing to an empty seat at a table) "NO! You can not
buy me a drink! Now sit down and think about what a *&^#@$(#$ you were! When you remember how to talk to people with some respect, then maybe someone will dance with you."
Mike: (goes to table, meekly sits down and sulks... later - I think he sobered up a little - he asked and was turned down by a few different women for a dance. Someone finally danced with him, but just one dance and he ended up back at "his" seat.)
I tried to ask her what the heck she was thinking to do such a thing and her only response was that he was a bully who thought he could pick on women that needed a woman to be a bigger bully and "spank" him. When I asked "what if it hadn't worked", she just smiled and said she felt safe 'cause I was right there. Sheesh!
count as VSD or just "garbage mouth"?
[This message has been edited by Panther (edited August 22, 2000).]