The Stalker

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The Stalker

Postby LenTesta » Fri Sep 22, 2000 4:03 pm

This is probably the most frightening of situations.

Stalking is akin to being hunted.

A person who is stalked is constantly feeling like they are being watched wherever they go. A stalker uses this psycological highjacking to their advantage, just waiting for the opportunity to confront you when your guard is down.

You can't constantly be aware of your surroundings at ALL times, they are thinking. Sooner or later you will let your guard down, and they will be right there when you do. Time is on their side after all. You may go months without seeing or hearing from a stalker. Then as more and more time goes by, you begin to think that you are never going to see or hear from them again.

You are now beginning to get on with your life. You take your daughter to the soccer match and drop her off at the field. "I will return when the game is almost over" you say to her as you get back in the car and head out to the supermarket. It is now 5:30 PM and the sun is slowly sinking behind the trees as you hurry down to the field. You enter the parking lot and park the car 100 yards from the field because the other parents arrived before you or have stayed to watch the game. No one else is around you.
You get out of the car and as you are locking the doors...the stalker is right behind you!

Can VSD save you?



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The Stalker

Postby LenTesta » Wed Sep 27, 2000 1:13 pm

Looks like no one wants to take a stab at this one!

This is a very disturbing situation that mostly occurs with females being stalked by ex-boyfriends/dates/husbands.

Occasionaly a celebrity whether male or female is also stalked. In the case of the male we can refer to David Letterman being stalked by a woman who used to constantly break into his house and wear his pajamas. This type of individual is not going to go away with just a verbal warning. Verbal confrontation fuels the fire as that is what the stalker wants in this case. Just to be near and speak with the oject of the stalking is enough to create lasting memeories and delusions that they share some sort of communication.

When women are stalked though it is due mostly to revenge. VSD may not deter this type of stalker.

I can understand if women do not want to comment on this subject.

We can defer this thread until the other situations have been covered.




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