Thanks for the encouraging words. Please don't say that to my wife, she will think you are talking about someone else.
Most of the time when we get too comfortable with our surroundings (at home for instance), we forget about patience. I fly off the handle too fast and then immediatley regret the nasty words that come out of my mouth. It is hard to imagine that they can get out considering that my foot is so deeply planted in there sometimes.
One great lesson I learned from karate training is this... To become a great student, you must become a good teacher.
When teaching someone karate movements, you must perform them correctly or else you appear to be a "do as I say, not as I do teacher." You must reinforce the movements in your own mind and that makes you a better student as well as a teacher.
I am also using this theory to help me have patience when I am in a comfortable surrounding such as my home.
Being a moderator on this forum helps me to do that. But alas, we are only human. I still have a looong way to go to improving my patience at home. I am all talk though and very rarely do I get the urge to exhibit violence. I used to get angry and punch walls and doors but I learned very fast (since the repairs came out of my pocket and I had to do the labor) to stop doing that.
I guess this helps me use VSD in confrontations.
Ted: I believe you are correct about this comming from that story. I seem to remember reading this some time ago.