Very interesting web site about non-escallating Verbal Self-Defense
I found it hard to navigate and understand, but i suppose it would get easier with familiarity.
It has entire sections on Insults, codewords and comebacks.
One phrase I like:
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OUCH. When someone attacks you with words, most people fight back, saying way too much, or they stifle themselves, saying nothing. However, when you respond in these ways, you can get into sort of a kicked-dog syndrome, barking helplessly, sulking around corners, or snapping at strangers. The way out is to say very little until you can contact the deepest parts of yourself and feel whole again.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
Van is correct. It is definately worth a look.