Gee, I always thought good manners were a PART of good Budo!
As to the guy and the seminars - sign me up! I'm a long way from perfect and will take all the help I can get!
You make an excellent point on ego tripping, too. My Sensei used to tell us, "When you enter the dojo, check your ego at the door."
His sense of humor and his ability to gently deflate overblown egos was a joy to behold, even on the receiving end (which I was, on more than one occasion).
Sometimes, ego is our worst enemy. More dangerous than any street thug, mugger, burglar or murderer, because ego robs us of fear - fear which should tell us when to keep silent, not to aggravate a situation, not to be aggressive when it would be to our detriment.
Mike-sama, you have got it nailed down. I'm still working on it.
Lee Darrow, C.Ht.
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by mikemurphy:Lee, David, and Dana,
Manners aside, one of the things that I try to espouse is good Budo. Long ago, when I joined the group that sanctions my Jujitsu ranking (Kokusai Budoin), they taught me about the "other" side of budo. Not just the perfection of technique in your particular style (i.e. the opposite of bujutsu), but the perfection of character. Now, if you know me, you know that I am a long way away from that, but I still try to achieve that lofty goal. I also try to instill this in my students as much as possible. Believe me, I don't try changing the course of the tides, but sometimes a word here or an action there goes a long way.
Most importantly, it all starts with a little humbleness. That's where the apology comes in, even if it is not needed. It's a shame that ego or pride get in the way so that some people never see the clear picture. Worse yet, because of loyalties, other people back that person(s) up. Is it so hard to step back and look at the whole picture? An old principal of mine when I started teaching taught me an very important practice when dealing with parents of kids I have in school. He taught me to never make the judgement right then and there. Yes them, and do a lot of nodding, then sleep on the matter so that you can look at the situation with a clear head and make the best possible decision. Well, that didn't sit well with the type A personality at first, but I'm getting better at it as time goes on.
Maybe this guy ought to do seminars, huh?