<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by ozarque:
I don't want to belabor this topic, since the forum is about verbal self-defense rather than about feminism. I'll try to be brief, and then we can move on.
I am convinced that all this alleged male/female dichotomy is a red herring, and that the differences we think we perceive are tied not to biological gender but to power. I've been working in this field for more than a quarter century; I don't see the differences that are reported elsewhere. In my experience, people of both genders behave in exactly the same fashion toward those they perceive as weak, regardless of gender; for example, men are as likely to torment verbally a man they consider weak as they are a woman.
I'm aware that many scholars -- Prof. Deborah Tannen, for example -- disagree with me. That's all right....
Brava! An issue becomes an issue when people MAKE it an issue. Otherwise, it is an accepted social norm.
However, on the tormenting point Dr. Elgin made, one should note that the MANNER in which the tormenting occurs is often radically different, gender-wise. But that's possibly a matter of cultural norms as work, again, perhaps?
Lee Darrow, C.Ht.