I have never been accused of being uptight by my spouse or any man. I think in the marriage bed, it should be fun, playful, creative, and very giving. Who ever said "I am responsible for my own climax" must have a very selfish lover......sad. I respect my husband and he respects me. There is mutual courtesy, kindness, and care in the bed and outside of it.
I have never used sex as a weapon or threatened to withdraw it out of anger. That is just plain wrong for either to do. If my man is having medical problems with this, than I want to be there to support him and help him to find the problem. If he is not happy, it effects me. If it can't be solved, then we live with it. I would never leave my husband because he was impotent or had erectile dysfuntion. I didn't marry him for sex. That is the icing on the cake.
Even biblically, it says a wife should not withhold her body from her husband because it causes him to lust (which can lead to seeking that outside the marriage). But a man should love and respect his wife. Ejaculating on her face while she sleeps because she didn't give him sex is not respect or love.
Bruise, I hope your wife is helping you find a answer to your problem. You lose, she loses.
BTW, I am a 50 and things start happening to both males and females with regards to the bed. We ain't 20 anymore but can still have fun.
My best to you, Bruise.
PS Whether you go like marathoners or sprinters, it is all good.
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on Sat Aug 12, 2006 2:54 pm, edited 2 times in total.
"Cry in the dojo, laugh in the battlefield"