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What about D: 65 - 100?

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GEM
"Do or do not. there is no try!"

I am 45. And no doubt Bills points are apropos - but ambience alone does not help 17 years of a rather unusual and trained marriage. Many people's marriage are difficult, I feel mine is burdened slightly by how unusual the whole thing has been.

You are a smart man, Bruise

Not many men have a clue of men /women realities, and how those realities and chemistry hop around like a rabbit on a pogo stick over the years.

Below is something you can have fun with.

http://www.pointsincase.com/columns/nathan/7-26-06.htm

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Van

Bruce I saw that you mentioned a difficult time urinating.

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http://www.evitamins.com/product.asp?pid=4114

Benzo, thanks. I only have the episodes of pain with urinating when I have tried to show-off, and do extra work (which takes soem time) - which involves me starting and stopping (before finishing myself) for a long period of time. After a prolonged "work out" I find that sometimes : 1) I can't even finish - I think my prostate gets to swollen from excitation and then stopping without completing the tash 2) It can be painful to start to pee - I think from a swollen prostate. I have come to realize I can't put off the end too long or I pay the painful consequences - not unlike the blueballs suffered as a teenager, but also different. Maybe its something men only suffer as they age - "silver sack". I use saw palmetto daily - have some prostatic enlargement, but this is different - its a discomfort when I start a urine stream if I have tried to engage in a marathon session, when in fact running a mile or two is plenty for me.

Van, I read that column in the "ideal woman" debate - as well as many other threads by that guy and others. I am 45 and many of those viewpoints are so foriegn to me as to cause me embarassment. 4 year olds have more game than me. I grew up being the proverbial nice guy - and while many good things have resulted - am in a rather unhappy situation currently - which due mostly to finances of having just graduated I see no way out of - not even a good bluff of leaving since I don't really have the money to go anywhere and she knows I would not let the kids go without, and we both know the kids would not choose to go with me (and I don't blame them in all honesty)

Van, I cannot imagine what my life would have been if I had heard those sort of messages as a teenager instead of be responsible, be nice, learn to be a good provider, be a pu**y.

Have a few laughs and make the best of what you got, Bruise, things always have a way of working out.

I find the articles very entertaining.

Even more so when it pisses off the women who are so uptight, they can't even relax and smile.

Notice how we don't see any women on this thread. What does it tell you?

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Van

Nurses would have no issue with this tread (I married one )
Especially those that work in Senoir complexes...They can not be embarressed, they know what dies last
they know how to appreciate life.

But be warned! Shrinkage not always from cold water


Grey Nurse Shark

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Léo

Don't know if this applys to you ..but may apply to someone else reading this. Wellbutrin is often given with or instead of SSRI antidepressants to fix the sexual side effects derived from them. SSRI's like Prozac often make ejaculation impossible, and may also take one's sex drive away. Wellbutrin (Generic bupropion) does not have this side effect, and can also increase one's libido.

Umm... that they like it when Men can go like marathoners instead of Sprinters???:twisted:

I have never been accused of being uptight by my spouse or any man. I think in the marriage bed, it should be fun, playful, creative, and very giving. Who ever said "I am responsible for my own climax" must have a very selfish lover......sad. I respect my husband and he respects me. There is mutual courtesy, kindness, and care in the bed and outside of it.

I have never used sex as a weapon or threatened to withdraw it out of anger. That is just plain wrong for either to do. If my man is having medical problems with this, than I want to be there to support him and help him to find the problem. If he is not happy, it effects me. If it can't be solved, then we live with it. I would never leave my husband because he was impotent or had erectile dysfuntion. I didn't marry him for sex. That is the icing on the cake.

Even biblically, it says a wife should not withhold her body from her husband because it causes him to lust (which can lead to seeking that outside the marriage). But a man should love and respect his wife. Ejaculating on her face while she sleeps because she didn't give him sex is not respect or love.

Bruise, I hope your wife is helping you find a answer to your problem. You lose, she loses.

BTW, I am a 50 and things start happening to both males and females with regards to the bed. We ain't 20 anymore but can still have fun.

My best to you, Bruise.

Regards,
Vicki

PS Whether you go like marathoners or sprinters, it is all good.

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"Cry in the dojo, laugh in the battlefield"

Excellent post, Vickie.

Wish more women would get involved in these discussions.

So much to learn from different viewpoints.

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Van

Okay....have you been talking to my wife???


Canandeh, I did a rotation in geriatric medicine, and even with men who had severe Alzheimer's, it was considered a grace sign if they did not regularly fondle themselves or sit there holding their groin - it was a sign that it was near the end.