If you will forgive my intrusion on your forum Paul , again this a pointless exercise in semantics ! If some people cannot handle the emotional burden of the martial arts embrace , then they should take up ballet dancing ! Let's face it , David has said from the beginning that karate /judo etc. Is not really for everyone …some people cannot deal with the emotional demands of self discovery , whether it be martial arts , love , a challenging corporate position or whatever ; so they struggle along drowning one inch at a time , keep shifting from one system to the next finding answers , keep moving from job to job , see a shrink , a priest and on and on ! And then they dilute the "wine" with their fragility !
You want to be effective in the martial arts , you must come from solid stock emotionally and you got to be able to handle the buffeting of the mind and function with emotional intelligence !
Consider this …I took over Harry Brawley 's school in Norwood back in the late 60's ! Now I have nothing against Harry except the fact he had a tendency to tell his students that in a real fight if the opponent 'violated ' the student's sanchin he would pay a heavy price ! Whatever that meant , I don't know ! But I do know that upon taking over the dojo and calling the drop out list to try and get them back under my tutelage , I happened to get on the phone the father of a brown belt , whom I knew to have been a very good student and decent dojo 'fighter' ! I was not prepared for the verbal assault from 'daddy' ! It seems his son was set upon by two punks one night when coming out of a convenience store , and he froze without being able to raise a hand taking a pretty good beating ! The father was livid at me and Harry and George Mattson and all the rest for the great deception to his son who was now emotionally devastated …my oh my !
I also remember Peter Ventresca , a good guy , but not very emotionally mature for the martial arts ! He and his wife were inseparable , which I suppose it's okay unless it becomes a farce ! We trained together for the first world championship in Chicago in 1962 ..Peter had high expectations in spite if the fact he was a green belt and had never entered competition before in his life ..I mean in any sport ; He had no idea what it takes to be a competitor , yet he felt he had been touched by the ' magic' Uechi-Ryu wand and he was , therefore untouchable ! In his first match he hurt his foot on top of loosing badly to his opponent and spent the rest of the weekend with his foot in a bucket of ice cursing George Mattson for his misfortune !
Then His hapless wife , left all alone for the weekend , Oh my > what a terrible crime , fell down a flight of stairs getting badly bruised ! Now GEM was getting blamed for having 'pulled them apart ' and for the wife's broken hearted fall >>> in addition of the great deception of a 'lousy karate style' ! Next thing I know, Peter travels to Japan for a few weeks and 'studies' under Nishyama sensei ..then he comes back 'knighted in shotokan bliss' …opens up a dojo …even writes a book ..and keeps slinging mud at GEM and all Uechi people ..and then is out of business in a few years …Oh please…Give me a break !!