It's a big subject
.eye contact and moving away when sparring are not the same thing. When you "stare somebody down" as you see in professional boxing matches it is a lot more than most karate folks could take.it's a kinda dominance thing.and it is something you need to learn...if you can do it well then you can stop somebody dead in their tracks.............with sparring IMHO you need to do light and continuos sparring, and you need to know that when you spar against a blackbelt or senior grade that you are not going to get your head handed to you on a plate. It takes time to "learn" how to fight.
I've told the tale many times of the black belt that I knocked out
.some folks don't like me telling it, maybe it reflects badly on them
.but I was sparring with this guy and he kept sticking nukite fingers in my eyes, I told him to stop.then I threw a kick real light and he did a takedown and I carried on sparring and he sneered at me "When I throw you you stay down"
....now remember I have this little white belt on and he's got an extra long black belt with all little red stripes on it......then more fingers to the eyes.............I said stop that.and another sneer......soI chinned him and he went down like a bag of scheitt
.nowyou should never be in a situation like that, certainly as a white belt......and in my first karate club that would never have been tolerated in fact the very same thing happened.high grade Jap started abusing lower grades...and got a head butt for his troubles ( not by me though
.by my teacher
unless you bring folks on real slow and let them gain confidence in a friendly environment then they will never be ready to step up a grade and use equipment sparr full contact or be empowered enough to train on their own with weights and train the moves and the katas on their own
one of the very real problems with martial arts and some instructors is that they are trying to strengthen their own ego and make themselves bigger, rather than just teaching....I've been fortunate I've trained with some really firt class folks who put my instruction first