Again , the message that shoots forward from a woman's perspective is one deeply rooted in emotion , something which can be very controlling in establishing the chain of mental impulses to be triggered for defensive action out of 'basic instinct' which the north American society has shoved into a corner ! Whereas the European / Latin male/female is encouraged to show emotion , it's north American counterpart is stifled from birth in emotive development .
As to the male , the Anglo -saxon view is that in order to be a real man, for example, he has to get drunk and puke all over someone ! Then , in the grip of a hangover , he cries ! Man ! That is real emotion !!
How many of you have seen ,' real men ' try to intimidate you by sucking on a bottle of beer in smirking grandeur ! That is the biggest cop out in the world i.e., they can blame the good beating which may befall them , on the drinking !
On a lighter tone , Once I knew a lady who told me she was going out with this guy ,and enjoying it , even though he was a lush ! Then one day came the revelation …he told her he was quitting drinking and leaving her at the same time because the only time he could really stand her , was when he got drunk !
Do I have your attention yet??
Studies on emotional intelligence confirm that all of what we do in life , including how we respond under attack , if we respond at all , is emotionally driven first …any technique , is second in importance !
We all possess an "Emotional Sentinel " , which if given room to roam our inner self , it always protects you with loving care ! If you shove it into a closet in chains it falls prey to the fervent imbeciles of life ! The emotional mind is light speed ahead of the rational mind …which is responsible for the survival of mankind , in that , it relies on the most basic decisions to insure the passing on of progeny !
So any action triggered by the emotional mind , is very direct and powerful , determined and instantaneous and all sweeping in resolute response ! The most important benefit to us as martial artists from working the emotional side of us along with the physical , is the fact that intuition sharpens up to the point where we can read deadly developing emotions in people at the formative stages before it displays by facial expressions ! It is interesting to discover that studies have tracked microemotions that "flit across the face for less than one half a second " !
When you set the stage for your emotions to surface in full functional mode ,as lori and Jackie set forth , They trigger a takeover of situations with the urgency of primal survival !
And so to create an effective emotional sentinel as a back up to your physical dan ranks achievements , you must allow a free flowing of powerful emotions such as , love, anger and fear ,among the most important ! For example , "love" wrote Ste -ndhal , is like a fever that comes independent of the will ..anger and fears , as well, sweep over us , seeming to happen to us rather than being our choice , and that provides us , usually , with the best coping mechanism out of ancestral times !
The most successful men and women in any endeavor , including the martial arts , are the ones who embrace these concepts naturally ! Unfortunately , I must add , not everyone is capable to walk this arduous road ! That is why I am fond of saying that karate is not really for everyone ! Development transcends mere physical prowess which becomes nothing but an ineffective shell !