Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2010 2:06 pm
Ian,
Yes, the early Mormons were a pretty violent bunch and did some awful things. I've seen documentaries and read accounts... and they're pretty bad to say the least. I've also seen/read varying accounts about the original reasons for polygamy and why it was abolished. It appears that there are very biased accounts on both sides, so... as always... YMMV. Like I said, I'm not Mormon and I'm not poly... (not polygamous, not poly-amorous even.)
mhosea,
While it's not for me, I do know some groups (very rare to encounter any group like them, but I happen to have met a few) that are open, poly-amorous, and seem to be/live quite nicely. In those groups I only know of two married "couples" that also "share" each other. The majority are "single" or in an "open" relationship. (Their terminology) Until I made it very clear that I wasn't interested, I was propositioned a number of times... from both sexes in those groups. Now, they completely respect my ground rules and boundaries. When I was younger we always just thought of guys like that as "players" and women... well, that term was much more derogatory, but evidently (from conversations that I've heard) that derogatory attitude and double standard has maintained its hold on many of today's younger folks. But not in these open groups.
Personally, I only need my lovely wife. She's my life and my love and no amount of alternative physical sexual gratification comes close to how much I love her. I could be celibate the rest of my life as long as I have her. Fortunately for me, with her I don't/won't have to be!
Yes, the early Mormons were a pretty violent bunch and did some awful things. I've seen documentaries and read accounts... and they're pretty bad to say the least. I've also seen/read varying accounts about the original reasons for polygamy and why it was abolished. It appears that there are very biased accounts on both sides, so... as always... YMMV. Like I said, I'm not Mormon and I'm not poly... (not polygamous, not poly-amorous even.)
mhosea,
While it's not for me, I do know some groups (very rare to encounter any group like them, but I happen to have met a few) that are open, poly-amorous, and seem to be/live quite nicely. In those groups I only know of two married "couples" that also "share" each other. The majority are "single" or in an "open" relationship. (Their terminology) Until I made it very clear that I wasn't interested, I was propositioned a number of times... from both sexes in those groups. Now, they completely respect my ground rules and boundaries. When I was younger we always just thought of guys like that as "players" and women... well, that term was much more derogatory, but evidently (from conversations that I've heard) that derogatory attitude and double standard has maintained its hold on many of today's younger folks. But not in these open groups.
Personally, I only need my lovely wife. She's my life and my love and no amount of alternative physical sexual gratification comes close to how much I love her. I could be celibate the rest of my life as long as I have her. Fortunately for me, with her I don't/won't have to be!