Good post George, and one worthy of more discussion.
But I've learned that the way those messages are conveyed determine whether people listen or dig themselves deeper into a hole of ego-driven resistance.
Very true. What is also very true is that the ego driven resistance and ‘holing up’ instead of rebutting, speaks volumes about their weaknesses.
They could respond with ‘well, that doesn’t apply to me/us because…..’
Or ‘I think you are wrong because….’
Going into a deep hole tells the story of ‘insecurity’ and inability to react.
Martial Art egos are monumental... especially among seniors. Telling them they "gotta" do something because what they are doing now is stupid will get you "NOWHERE"!
In the end nobody has ever said they are stupid_ the professionals on violence that write here say they may be uninformed about the real world, not stupid.
Dave and his colleagues understand the "hard-head" mentality of "M.A. jocks" who think what they do prepare them for what they will face in jobs our guys perform every day.
Yes and no. Dave has stated many times that what he writes applies to civilian life, every day life challenges and not necessarily to military/police etc.
And when we write that ‘Mushin’ from dojo practice will emerge and ‘take care of business’ we compound the problem of ‘hard headedness’_ What teacher and dojo are really qualified to teach survival in the physical, emotional, legal, and financial sense? This is the purview of violence professionals.
In a training environment, these ego-driven misconceptions are quickly corrected. No long-winded article necessary. No references or expert studies needed.
True enough. But what training environment? I take it you mean ‘specialized cross training’ _ but even this suggestion implies to them that their TMA is lacking somehow and their knickers go on a twist. The reference to expert studies is then necessary to make them aware of critical knowledge worthy of exploration.
The trick is to get the egos listening instead of reacting and defending themselves to what they perceive as an attack on their skills and physical abilities.
The people who feel ‘dissed’ and attacked_ show us how weak they are. If they were secure and strong, then they would respond and argue the whys and why nots instead of dwelling in cocoons. After all the forums are here for discussions and even arguments_ no big deal_ show us what you got to say and why_ so we can all learn to look at things from different viewpoints.
When dealing with people who believe they will never need to protect themselves or don't wish to be bothered thinking about it, we must be patient and understanding.
That is their choice, and I for one have no interest in changing their views and needs. To each his own. They are free to ignore the realities forums, the concepts by experts etc. _it is like going to a book store, setting aside books about Mack Bolan, and buying the ones about flower arrangements. Their prerogative.
We are making progress and people are listening. But you won't make any progress by making fun of the non-believers while addressing the choir. Such strategy might make enjoyable reading for those who believe they are part of the "in" crowd, but is an absolute turn-off for the vast majority of readers who think you are talking about "them"!
Again, I have no interest in reaching pacifists and non-believers, when they complain to you, tell them to stay on their side of the river.
The ones who think we are talking about ‘them’ have a paranoia syndrome, and they show their weaknesses by not making their opinions known and invite discussions on their views. They fear ‘engagement’ _