Are you saying that Chris Brown shouldn't be held accountable?
I am saying we should NOT ignore Domestic Violence when a woman does it (does that make me a bad person with an agenda?). I am saying that even if he was more violent than she was, that she still needs to be held accountable for what violence she did.
I am saying that Domestic Violence should NOT be defined as a crime that only men can commit, either by the law or by the media (that that would be sexist AND that that form of sexism is the kind of sexism that folks are NOT eager to discuss much less attempt to eradicate).
Are you saying that women have valid excuses for being violent while men do not. Are you suggesting that men who cheat on their wives have the right to cut of their men's genitals?
Are you saying that Rihanna shouldn't be held accountable for her violence?
You may NOT be aware of her violence since that was not highlighted by the media (his violence was made known to the public while her violence was generally ignored as violence by the media). His violence was bad and hers was bad and I dare suggest that they be treated as both guilty, not just the one with gonads.
Or did we (we the media) assume that since she was a woman, that she was incapable of serious violence. Are we ready to ignore her violence and prosecute his?
For all who are confused (and for your own personal agendas), let me state what i am saying, that BOTH men and women who are violent should be labeled EQUALLY and be prosecuted EQUALLY according to the severity of their crime regardless of gender or mythlogy (the mythology being that only men are violent in the home, that only men seek to control their mate, that men are always bigger and always stronger than their mate, that women do not compensate for the sometimes lack of size or skill with use of weapons, poisons, and/or surprise.
This should not be confusing. Men should be treated in the same manner under the law as women. When men commit the same crimes as women, there should be equal outrage. And when a woman commits the same crime as a man, there should be equal punishment, not a rush to excuse her behavior.
All I am asking is that we treat Mr. brown with the same legal principles that we treat Rihanna with (innocent until proven guilty, equal treatment under the law regardless of gender).
Are you (fill in the blank here folks-ask yourself, please, this question) assuming that ONLY men are capable of Domestic violence?
Has our unwillingness to label female violence in the home led us to a mythology that women are less violent than men. What if our mass media never labeled a woman's violence as domestic violence? Wouldn't that leave us less likely to find female DV since we rarely define it as such.
Have we as a society defined a crime whereby only men can be considered the 'bad guy'?
How the media treats crimes can be as important in creating societal memes as how the prosecution treats a crime.
Are we ready to excuse female violence but prosecute male violence while pretending to be treating folks equally regardless of gender.
If my 'personal agenda' is to point out gender inequality, the kind that we (as a collective-society) like to ignore or pretend does not exist, then I'll happily accept that moniker.
