I don't know what tell you IJ---I think its a reach that you equally love multiple people---the idea that you can love multiple kids is predicated
on being around them from childhood.
My feelings for the friends I have had since I was a kid are stonger than the feelings I have for friends I have made recently.......its just how people work.
"You cannot fairly judge the conclusions unless you bother to avail yourself of the data."
A-Open question as to if you have seen all
the data either. Or if you know how it was gathered, questions asked etc.
You seem willing to accept the conclusions without having all
B-Sure I can, its up the person that makes the claim to defend it......that it is so easy to find logical
"problem areas" and counter arguments with what little has been presented should be a red flag
for the overall conclusions.
C-That the conclusions are largely speculative, in that nobody has a time machine to go back and check how things "really" were done back in the day.
C A-The oldest codified laws from as far back as we can check had rules/laws pertaining to adultry and even "primitive" hunter gatherers in the recent past had pretty serious penelties for women sleeping around.
So I'd guess that whatever examples the author can produce there are more
D-Even out closest animal relatives (bobono's aside) become hyper violent when somebody else tries t co-op "their" mate. Males and females both.........and sure both sets sometimes fool around.....but the anger over it seems hardwired into them.......so I doubt its wholly cultural.
"many long term couples have little sexual excitment or frequency anymore"
And how do you know this?
What counts as "many?"
And how trustworthy is the source for that?
And maybe the solution is spending more time working on their relations instead
of seeking new partners.
if they spent as much time working on their current relationship instead of the time and energy in getting and maintaining a new relationship, they would not be having problems.
Hey if were going to speculate might as well be thorough.
(Plus according to the logic expressed above will no doubt become a situation in which "many long term couples have little sexual excitment or frequency" which would require another new partner and then another and then another.......)
"if pair bonding is the rule then so is adultry"
Ok, fair enough..........but I would posit that there are probably as many people that don't
commit adultry as that do.
Some people simply can't be trusted.
In terms "lots of people" (your term) that live that way now........I'd again
check the actual numbrs of people that currently live in places that allow multiple wives ......and the number of people that actually do it
A friend of mine is from Afganistain---he is from a social class that could afford multiple wives and the State (att the time) encourges it-----yet few
people he knows did it....for a range
Besides, why bother to go thu all the stuggle to be able to "marry" at all if your just going to skip all that "fidelity" stuff and move right to an "open" arrangement?
Multiple relationships would seem to create more
confusion about whom had "rights" to what than the present situation.
Actually this seems to heading into another arguement so if it is all right with you I'll drop it here.
If that is not "OK" with you I'll be happy to respond......seriously.