Stryke,
Your post is right on target.
There is a subconscious 'empowerment'/'entitlement' _effect that can take hold in martial arts practitioners…all besieging 'shadows of grey' if you will, that can be very self destructive at times.
Because of our training, there is a tendency to think of ourselves as 'superior fighters' no matter what the challenges and the ingrained empowerment can mate righteousness_ propelling us to 'stand our ground' whereas backing down or avoiding would have been the better part of personal valor…
The end result, sometimes being that 'but for' _our 'training mentalities' we would have taken the common sense way out…rather than the opposite resulting in dire consequences.
There is a tendency in some trained martial artists to draw a precocious 'line in the sand' read that [aggressive, ahead of time, beforehand, bold, brassy, cocky, flippant, forward, fresh, nervy, premature, presumptuous, pushy, quick, sassy, smart-alecky] when facing 'hairy' situations and even forum discussions as you and Rick point out. We have all been there.
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Its naive to believe you have or deserve any influence over someone else,and that opinions are like assholes everyone has one
that the more holistic approach to martial arts and putting your ego in your conduct rather than your competence is more tactical,and more rewarding.
It is easy to imagine the abyss such a person can fall into.
Recall the case I investigated and reported here years back: a young 'tough' karate black-belt, meets his new girlfriend living in very bad part of Boston, on the top floor of tenement building.
He soon finds out that the girl had recently broken up with an ex boyfriend, a Jamaican gangbanger, who was stalking her.
Against his better judgment, clouded by his martial arts 'entitlement process' he finds himself isolated and ambushed one late night, in a darkened stairwell, when leaving his girl's apartment to go home.
He dies a terrible death with his throat cut by the gangbanger.
I was on the scene the next morning while the blood spurts were being cleaned up from the walls and ceiling.
He had been warned by his girl about this possibility…yet he 'machoed' it out…refusing to be 'punked out' to use an expression we read on my forum once by some @#$%$ poster.
At times, as you point out…a large investment in martial identity can lead to an early grave, as in this case.