This is actually David's post - mentioned in the "Strong on Defense" thread - he had trouble posting it so emailed it to me...He raises most excellent points and outlines strategies to formulate a stronger mindset based on his reading and experience.
Thank you David for an excellent post!
Debecker talks about how the bad guy (BG) uses various approaches to break down a victim’s initial distrust -- intuition that something’s not right. These include the “forced teamup” -- “C’mon open the door, WE’ll get that tired changed”; or the plead for the victim’s help -- “Can you help me find my lost dog?” The goal is to ease the victim and bring him/her into control. Failing to heed the instinct, the victim falls ever closer to the BG’s control.
Once the victim is in pretty good control, the BG cements it with fear -- “Don’t move/scream/resist or I’ll HURT you!” If the victim fears injury, then s/he becomes totally paralysed and totally under control. Strong advocates strongly that we mindset against the fear of injury. As he states it, compliance “seems like the way to escape injury. But, in fact, blind obedience makes it easier for him to switch from a quick theft to violence against you.” Part of mindsetting is to realize that the attacker probably has done this before, that he doesn’t have your well being at heart, that his promise to not hurt you if you comply is a LIE, that if he is not willing to hurt you, he would not have preyed on you in the first place. The second part of mindsetting is to see yourself escaping, resisting and even sustaining injuries in the process. The latter is important -- see yourself getting injured -- stabbed, shot,etc. -- but still committed to resistance and escape. This mindsetting will help you overcome fear and inaction.
“Fear can paralyze and panic the strongest of us or fill the weakest with courage beyond any degree they’ve ever known -- courage driven by a rage-filled determination. Which will it be for you, if you are ever targeted for a violent crime, depends on which you fear most: injury against yourself in trying to escape or control by the attacker and his crimes against you?”
Strong offers four basic rules, based on his experiences and his knowledge of various crimes committed against persons:
1. React immediately -- your best chance to escape violence and minimize injury is in the first seconds.
2. Resist -- you only alternative is to submit; both choices are lousy, but resisting gives you the best chance.
3. Crime Scene #2 -- always more isolated than the initial point of contact, and always worse for you.
4. Never, never give up -- your attitude can keep you alive when you’re badly injured.
While Strong is preaching to the general public and is talking about “visualization”, as martial artists we have opportunity through practice to actually face our fear of injury. Learn to handle pain and to work through it in the dojo. I personally found this useful in real confrontations. Unless, you’ve been knocked out or generally incapacitated, you can fight through the pain by FIGHTING the opponent.