1) On 5-25 you wrote: "avoidance , especially when tactically sound is the
best defense !"
Could you plez explain...vat perzakly ist "tactically sound?"
2) From the same post: "Again , you will find a huge difference between ego and self respect...unless they can rationalize the submission to tactical advantage , they are usually scarred for life."
My understanding of the term ego is: I in relation to all else.
In the past, wouldn't you agree, self respect has been a result of cultural conditioning? Lately though, more people are asserting their prerogatives and defining it for themselves. Thus the interest in Cultural Diversity, for example. So, I'm curious about what you see as the "huge difference." Would you please elaborate?
Lori San et al.:
To return to the elevator (yet again). The original scenario was sexist because it inferred that the woman, like a thing, would not react, but wait to be protected. I personalized it to dramatize the distinction that my partner, and, I suspect, any woman with a "normal" ego, would not wait for me to intervene on her behalf. She would protect herself, as would any "normal" human being. As for my behavior, her gender is irrelevant, it's the relationship. The line is the same regardless of who I am with, probably even a stranger. And I suspect this is true for nearly everyone contributing. Once it is crossed, I admit, I attack. The outcome is fate, assuming everyone is operating instinctually, like the bull, not the hunter.
What's interesting is the variety of mindsets and locations of "lines". The encouraging aspect, to me, is the mind's ability to preempt the hairiness. But pride in instinctual behavior is nothing more than misplaced vagina envy!! Afraid to care, as males, we have to have a rationale to hide behind, an explanation for our "apparent" inability (to care). Lacking emotional content, we take pride in our n, where n = something, ANYTHING, other than empathy...our ability to defend, even!! Excuse me?!!! Which century did you come from?? And it's this SOMETHING, and in this culture it is usually a thing, that gives us self respect. But we're moving beyond it. Why just yesterday two, count ‘em, TWO, guys asked me for directions!!!!!!!!!!!
Honor through small battles with one's self!
Herr Knight: *Where* does Van point out about "the most important observer?" Did he really say that?!! (Ah swear, that boyz jus' gettin' more insiteful evry day!)
Peas...und Carrots!! (For significance of carrots see http://www.iac1.freeservers.com/
[This message has been edited by MFH (edited 05-26-99).]