<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Frequent encounters with DANGER are a part of life. Beyong making you inwardly strong, familiarity with DANGER, like the near brush of death, can instill in you a profound awareness of the life force and the mysterious nature of the cosmos. Such heightened awarenes can bring new meaning, determinaton, and richness into your life.
"I Ching, Hexagram 29"<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Beauty, its attainment and preservation, is the most frequent challange that American girls are given. A big chunk of our economy is built on girls and women having enough beauty. And since we are held up in our shrinking global village as the females to emulate, our sisters around the world are inundated with our beauty battles, victories and losses.
The beasts we fight are zits, pounds, aging, and hair. World problems? What world? Feminism? Sorry, I share my pits. Violence? What violence? Except, why did that girl have bruises? Oh, she fell down the saitrs. And Candy, well, you know, she did wear such short skirts, it's no wonder that some boy might go too far. Wasn't it a shame that Ally was raped? She shouldn't have been out so late.
I was raised to believe that there was no reason for me to confront or fight, that fighting was not my domain; I was to leave my breasts to my prince and concentrate on the beauty of myself and his castle. I was taught that because of my erstwhile physical delicacy, and therefore inferiority, I was not really able to fight. My fighting back would be impossible, futile, and fatal.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Women must reclaim their natural ability to be physically dangerous in order to achieve true freedom.
"Beauty Bites Beast"<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
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Women must be dangerous...
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Dana-Sensei,
Great post.
One of the biggest problems I had when I was teaching night school self defense classes was overcoming the "but I'd HURT him!" revulsion some women would have when taught a particular response to an attack.
The "Be Nice" driver (to use transactional analysis terminology) has a subtext to it. That subtext is "You can't."
Many women have been raised to "be Nice" in virtually all situations. This is a BIG stumbling block to being able to adaquately defend ones'self.
It's very hard to double ear-slap someone and be nice! It's really tough to be nice and bite the fingers of an attacker. It's almost impossible to be nice and throw someone through a plate glass window.
Unfortunately, in some situations, the above-mentioned acts are required for personal survival. Hence the "You Can't" subtext.
Overcoming the Be Nice driver is often a very tough thing to do. A Sensei is facing years and years of conditioned belief and behavior patterns and must overcome them in a relatively short span of time for the student to be able to successfully defend their person.
This is not easy. Sometimes, it is not even possible.
Some students refuse to accept that, in defending ones'self, they might have to harm another. Harming another is prohibited by all these teachings we have about being nice, not hurting others, not making a scene, etc., etc., etc.
Even when coming from a place of having been attacked and violated, some people (not just women) have a very difficult time deliberately injuring another person.
Perhaps a discussion of how to teach students how to overcome that reticence would be a good avenue to drive down for a while.
Respectfully,
Lee Darrow, C.Ht.
(Sandan, ret.)
Great post.
One of the biggest problems I had when I was teaching night school self defense classes was overcoming the "but I'd HURT him!" revulsion some women would have when taught a particular response to an attack.
The "Be Nice" driver (to use transactional analysis terminology) has a subtext to it. That subtext is "You can't."
Many women have been raised to "be Nice" in virtually all situations. This is a BIG stumbling block to being able to adaquately defend ones'self.
It's very hard to double ear-slap someone and be nice! It's really tough to be nice and bite the fingers of an attacker. It's almost impossible to be nice and throw someone through a plate glass window.
Unfortunately, in some situations, the above-mentioned acts are required for personal survival. Hence the "You Can't" subtext.
Overcoming the Be Nice driver is often a very tough thing to do. A Sensei is facing years and years of conditioned belief and behavior patterns and must overcome them in a relatively short span of time for the student to be able to successfully defend their person.
This is not easy. Sometimes, it is not even possible.
Some students refuse to accept that, in defending ones'self, they might have to harm another. Harming another is prohibited by all these teachings we have about being nice, not hurting others, not making a scene, etc., etc., etc.
Even when coming from a place of having been attacked and violated, some people (not just women) have a very difficult time deliberately injuring another person.
Perhaps a discussion of how to teach students how to overcome that reticence would be a good avenue to drive down for a while.
Respectfully,
Lee Darrow, C.Ht.
(Sandan, ret.)
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Women must be dangerous...
I agree totally!! I have tried to reinforce with my ladies that you are never nice when defending yourself or your family....it still takes alot to get it through to them.
Becky
Becky
Women must be dangerous...
I've certainly seen my share of women who have no problem being mean (LOL). I think a few bad relationships with do that to them.
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