<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by LenTesta: I hear you Gary,
I am not without faults either though. I am always amazed at how calm I can be when something goes wrong while I am in the dojo.
Outside the dojo is different though. I do not know why. I have often enraged other drivers, who were being just as idiotic and uncaring as you described above, when I should have just said or did nothing. I almost got into a brawl with someone who I had no clue as to his size or if he was even carrying a weapon. Fortunately he never got out of his car or I would have been much later opening the dojo than I wanted to be.
I understand the job that you do Gary. I assume that you are refering to customers and the way they treat you as an employee. Everyone is familiar with the saying the customer is always right and customers know this as well. However it shouldn't mean that they can be rude.Mental harm can injure but you can't return with physical harm. Let the sleeping tiger lay. Save your rage for the jerks that mean to cause you phsical harm.
If you wish to put some of these people in their place however, there are many good books you can read on how to be subtle without losing your job in the process.
In the dojo, you are in a more or less predictable environment, where you are in control. In the rest of the world, that is not the case and, like many of us, you have times when someone will get under your skin and you will act out on your irritation. Welcome to the club.
When one is in major control of a portion of their lives, like being Sensei in a dojo where, in class at least, you are in control, it is sometimes daunting to make the paradigm shift to the outside world.
In my professional opinion, this is one reason than some high-ranking Sensei are such egotistical jerks (no one in here that I have encountered, BTW) - they have trouble making the distinction between the dojo and the outside world.
As the great humorist Swami Beyondananda once said, "the only way to overcome gravity is with levity." Sometimes, one has to step back and see the absurdity of the actions of others and of ourselves.
Personally, I'm still working on this one - big time.
Gary-sama, this elitism is the same animal that rears its ugly head with members of a priviledged class, such as born-agains and the like because they have been told over and over again that they are SPECIAL or, in some cases, Diety's Special Children and therefore (through some twisted logic) can do no wrong for they will always be forgiven.
What they fail to understand is that most people are not as all-forgiving as their Diety. They also forget that doing unto others as they would have done unto themselves is critical to their application of faith.
My reaction is to just take care of them like anyone else, let them go and chuckle about their misunderstanding of what they have been taught.
The Maker loves laughter - that's why there are so many of us. - This is a tenent of the Swami's Absurdiveness Training Program. Don't get even - GET ODD!
A bit rambling perhaps, but I tend to do that now and again.
Lee Darrow, C.Ht.