Being your basic coward, I try and talk my way out.
He wrote that on Bill's forum in another thread.
I am sure he is not a coward but he sees value in "talking_defusing" which can be a good thing.
But I was going through some scenarios in my head Saturday after having witnessed some ##### giving someone a bad time of it while this someone was trying to defuse and appease.
It was a group of young people made up of a few guys and a few girls cruising the crowded mall in Providence Rhode Island.
What happened was this someone had absentmindedly walked into the group at right angles and brushed up against one of the women.
The more he apologized and tried to defuse, the more brazen one of the punks got into his face, until he was able to walk away with his tail between his legs.
Pretty hard for me to watch that and to feel good about seeing the punk empowered by the event. All my thoughts were about “go ahead and make my day” could not accept verbal defusing in that situation.
Anyone have this problem? I mean for real not just forum talk.
[This message has been edited by Van Canna (edited September 04, 2002).]