Such as the language of attention seeking, identity seeking, attachment, entitlement, grandiosity and rejection.
All of the above are linked as according to De Becker [Gift of fear]__
Many women who cannot bear to be alone, unheard, ignored, or not up to “competition,” are committed to being listened to and to being seen [attention seeking] __
If the need in them is great enough, they might do some pretty extreme things to draw interest.
This is of course true of men as well, only that women are more at risk to be kissed by violence than men by such behavior. And the violence takes so many subtle forms that it is uncanny.
There is a certain “perceived provocation” in some individuals that triggers entitlement from which flow abuse and violence on the basis of “perceived intentionality” on the part of the “ Body talker”__
In my investigations I have come up against so much of this, that it is fascinating and scary all at once.
These are wise words by De Becker:
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** The big problem is that we are what we are, and very rarely we will change our ways and thinking process, therefore we shall always remain victims in keeping with the scheme of nature.We must see the battle __ at least for a moment__ from the deck of the enemy warship, because each person has his own perspective, his own reality, no matter how much it may differ form ours.
Pretty frightening, isn’t it?
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Van Canna
[This message has been edited by Van Canna (edited June 01, 2001).]
