Sometimes I think it must be an 'alpha male' thing for women. I guess it is such a high to bring down the top dog, as far as romance or war goes.
My daughter met her boyfriend the summer after her sophomore year. She had never participated in the ROTC program and decided to go in to it for her junior year of high school. This week long co-ed boot camp was her first taste of ROTC. She did well and was attracted to the head highschool cadet helping run the program. I wasn't sure how that would work out because of this conflict of interest and possible complications of fraternizing, especially since he ended up being the commanding officer over two schools his senior year.
They ended up dating while both in ROTC. He is now off to ODU, considering a military career. She is now the commanding officer, no help from him. He chose to vote for another candidate over her. Ouch! She earned it through a high GPA, a well-written paper, a thorough interview with the ROTC teachers and principal, and hard work resulting in rank promotions and merits earned. Out of the top 7 candidates for the position, the top four were women. Go figure.
I know Stephanie is a natural-born leader and has been that way since about 3 years old. I am not sure if she is attracted to other people with her same qualities, attracted to a hot looking dark-haired, dark eyed young man, or loves the game of conquest (the conquering of the top guy or the alpha male).
Yes, I do hope she moves on but I do see why she is interested in him. They have been dating over a year now and this will be the test. Being separated and seeing each other every few weeks will be difficult. I personally hope it dissipates (sp?) before they get any more serious.
I bet at one time or another in your karate experience, you karate teachers have had women students often show a special interest in you, no?
Just some thoughts,
Vicki
What comforts you? What stresses you?
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We had this little 6 year old in that had the hots for me... she would always breath like me and even try to kiai really loud. It was pretty damn obvious who her karate hero was. One incident galvanized everyones suspicions that the little girl had a crush on me.. one day she came to work out with us and when she took her Gi top off for Sanchin, she was COVERED all over her arms with those little stick on Tattoos! It was hilarious and cute all at the same time...chef wrote:Yes, I do hope she moves on but I do see why she is interested in him. I bet you karate teachers have your women student often show a special interest in you, no?
Just thinking,
Vicki
I don't think her Mom knew though because we never saw her again after that.
Sitting high upon my lotus leaf, I can honestly say that practising Karate has given me a way to "deal" with stuff in a way that avoids a stressful life.
To me that's a goal.
Don't "deal" with stress; rather, have none to deal with.
No longer does traffic or lateness or daily bu11$41t stress me out, I just let it all roll around me.
Preparation is my friend. Last-minute chaotic plans do not appeal to me as they always seem to generate problems. However, I internally prepare for these problems in advance, so they do not stress me out -- I know they are going to happen. I accept it.
I brought a raincoat, you didn't check the weather.
I brought money, you forgot.
I prepared for violence, you thought it was silly.
I gassed up my car last night, you didn't bother, and now you're late.
I checked the map, you thought we'd just drive around and hope we'd find a hotel.
These people suffer their own self-caused stress. I won't participate in it.
I try hard not to be the "guy who is always right" because I know people find that irritating, especially when they are wrong, as they usually are.
So I sit quietly and nod my concern, and I don't rub it in.
I wait patiently behind the disorganized person trying to do their banking at the ATM while a lineup of six people behind me just want to get out 20 bucks.
I sit behind the idiot who pulls up to the electronic-pass toll gate (again) thinking a dollar will work. There is no slot.
I watch the driver ahead of me creep-lurch impatiently forward while I can clearly see the side light is still solid green. All I have to do is turn my head and look.
I have observed that the majority of the population cannot see past their nose nor think 5 minutes into the future, so I just thread my way through them and go about my business.
When they impede me, I patiently accept it as just the way it is -- no biggie.
I try to be Mr. Invisible and take the (faster) low road.
I think stress is caused mainly by reaction, not by the circumstances themselves. No reaction, no stress. You choose.
NM
To me that's a goal.
Don't "deal" with stress; rather, have none to deal with.
No longer does traffic or lateness or daily bu11$41t stress me out, I just let it all roll around me.
Preparation is my friend. Last-minute chaotic plans do not appeal to me as they always seem to generate problems. However, I internally prepare for these problems in advance, so they do not stress me out -- I know they are going to happen. I accept it.
I brought a raincoat, you didn't check the weather.
I brought money, you forgot.
I prepared for violence, you thought it was silly.
I gassed up my car last night, you didn't bother, and now you're late.
I checked the map, you thought we'd just drive around and hope we'd find a hotel.
These people suffer their own self-caused stress. I won't participate in it.
I try hard not to be the "guy who is always right" because I know people find that irritating, especially when they are wrong, as they usually are.
So I sit quietly and nod my concern, and I don't rub it in.
I wait patiently behind the disorganized person trying to do their banking at the ATM while a lineup of six people behind me just want to get out 20 bucks.
I sit behind the idiot who pulls up to the electronic-pass toll gate (again) thinking a dollar will work. There is no slot.
I watch the driver ahead of me creep-lurch impatiently forward while I can clearly see the side light is still solid green. All I have to do is turn my head and look.
I have observed that the majority of the population cannot see past their nose nor think 5 minutes into the future, so I just thread my way through them and go about my business.
When they impede me, I patiently accept it as just the way it is -- no biggie.
I try to be Mr. Invisible and take the (faster) low road.
I think stress is caused mainly by reaction, not by the circumstances themselves. No reaction, no stress. You choose.
NM
The music spoke to me. I felt compelled to answer.
Excellent points, Neal. We need to embrace more of this kind of mindset. Thanks for the wise counsel.
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Vicki
I especially like the following:
Can I borrow a cup of that perspective?Preparation is my friend. Last-minute chaotic plans do not appeal to me as they always seem to generate problems.
Vicki
"Cry in the dojo, laugh in the battlefield"
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Remember when Shelly Dunn needed publicity photos for his jars, and you took the B&W photos of me for him? My favorite all time sensei crush incident was when two little teeny boppers at George's camp snuck unto Shelly's publicity book and stole those pictures.chef wrote: I bet at one time or another in your karate experience, you karate teachers have had women students often show a special interest in you, no?
The hero gets the damsel; I get jailbait.
Strike up the boy-band music, meistro!
- Bill
You are in luck, Shelly found them. You can still go down in history, after all, Bill.
Comforts of life: Shoes and Beds
-A down comforter and down pillow on a very cold night in a King/Queen pillow top bed.
-A great, comfortable pair of shoes.
Always pay for quality shoes and a quality bed....let's face it folks, if you are not in one, you are in the other.
Always (cold),
Vicki
Comforts of life: Shoes and Beds
-A down comforter and down pillow on a very cold night in a King/Queen pillow top bed.
-A great, comfortable pair of shoes.
Always pay for quality shoes and a quality bed....let's face it folks, if you are not in one, you are in the other.
Always (cold),
Vicki
"Cry in the dojo, laugh in the battlefield"
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Stryke
I think it is about conquest not abuse.
Crazy men!
There are peacocks and there are penhens. Funny thing, in the animal kingdom males are more flamboyant in color, trying to attract the female of he species. They are at the mercy of the female, to be accepted or rejected to initiate the mating ritual.
Not so in the human kingdom. Aren't you guys glad you don't have to be the ones to wear some many things to look beautiful or attract the opposite sex's eye....make-up, panty hose, jewelry, interesting hair styles, stylish or eye-catchy clothing.
That is a stress in itself.
Regards,
Vicki
PS You know you guys love being chased. Heck, for many men the fun is all in the chase. I have known guys (and women as well) that dropped the one they were pursuing once they had gotten them.....they loved the chase but were not committed. There are a lot of commitment-phobic people out there, for one reason or another.
Crazy men!
There are peacocks and there are penhens. Funny thing, in the animal kingdom males are more flamboyant in color, trying to attract the female of he species. They are at the mercy of the female, to be accepted or rejected to initiate the mating ritual.
Not so in the human kingdom. Aren't you guys glad you don't have to be the ones to wear some many things to look beautiful or attract the opposite sex's eye....make-up, panty hose, jewelry, interesting hair styles, stylish or eye-catchy clothing.
That is a stress in itself.
Regards,
Vicki
PS You know you guys love being chased. Heck, for many men the fun is all in the chase. I have known guys (and women as well) that dropped the one they were pursuing once they had gotten them.....they loved the chase but were not committed. There are a lot of commitment-phobic people out there, for one reason or another.
"Cry in the dojo, laugh in the battlefield"
